Hey there,
It sounds like this has been a confusing decision for you to swallow. I totally get feeling hurt, left out and disappointed by your friend’s choice. All of that can be so overwhelming when mixed up with wanting to be happy for your friend and not sour her special moment with her husband. It can be hard when our friends make choices that maybe are not the same as we would make, and it can make us question the relationship and if we see it the same way our friend does. That can be so tough.
While I do totally understand your feelings, It sounds like there are a lot of unknowns behind what led to this decision to change her wedding plans. I’m sure that there was some thinking and planning behind her decision to elope as well as her decision to not share this with anyone. Getting married can be expensive and we are, after all, in a cost-of-living crisis. It can also be extremely complicated with who to invite, and who to leave off the guest list. Mixing all of that with complicated family dynamics, sourcing vendors, and trying to make sure you still have time to enjoy your wedding is a huge and daunting task. I can understand throwing your hands up in the air and deciding to spend the money on a much less stressful holiday for just the bride and groom.
I think the only way to answer your question is to sit down with your friend and ask her. Talk to your friend about what lead to her decision to elope and try to understand her perspective. Clarifying what was going on behind the scenes for your friend might give you the answers you need about her decision to get married just the two of them, and keep it to themselves.
I hope this helps,
Amber
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