Ask Amber: Help! I Have Fallen in Love with My Therapist
Hey there, First of all, you should be really proud of yourself for recognising what’s going on here. It is such a tough and confusing situation when your brain starts to blur those lines and transference kicks in. Just so we’re all on the same page here, transference is when old feelings, beliefs or experiences […]
Ask Amber: How Can You Date Men When You Hate Them
Dear Reader, One of the things that is most difficult in any relationship is when people do things that aren’t aligned to what we think is best for them, especially when we can see the people we value getting in their own way. It’s a hard thing to care about someone and want them to […]
Ask Amber: Why Do I Have Difficulty Expressing Emotions?
Hey there, Thanks so much for reaching out. Experiencing difficulty expressing emotions can definitely be a challenging experience. Especially when you feel others are casting judgement on your reactions or it’s impacting your ability to make and maintain meaningful relationships. I can only imagine how isolating that must feel at times. There are many different […]
Dating, Love and Relationship Tips from a Psychologist
Valentine’s Day often evokes a range of emotions – joy, longing, connection, or even sadness. It’s a day that can feel celebratory for some and challenging for others. To navigate this complex landscape of love, relationships, and self-worth, we spoke to Clinical Psychologist and Couples Counsellor Phoebe Rogers and asked her for relationship tips as […]
Ask Amber: My Friend Started a Podcast and Keeps Sharing Secrets
Hey there reader Gosh, that is such a hard situation to be in. It sounds like you’re being pulled between trying to support your friends new endeavour and being a good sport, and advocating for yourself in a situation that is making you feeling really uncomfortable. A friend sharing secrets and private information without your […]
Ask Amber: My Best Friend is Cheating. Do I Keep Her Secret?
Dear reader, I really feel for you. That is such a tough spot to be in, and I can only imagine what it feels like to be pulled between your personal ethical code and the standards you hold yourself to as a friend. I completely understand where you’re coming from with those feelings of resentment […]
Ask Amber: My Partner Won’t Propose to Me
My partner won’t propose to me. I can’t talk to him about it because the last thing I
want is a shut up ring. What do I do Amber?
Ask Amber: Am I a Homewrecker if I Tell Him How I Feel?
Hey there reader, When I read your dilemma, the first thing that popped into my head was “Wow, haven’t we all been there at one point?”. This feels like such a universal experience to have a crush on someone that you work closely with. I want you to know you are definitely not alone in […]
Ask Amber: I Don’t Want Children. He Is in Denial
Hey there worried reader, Wow. This sounds like such a tough spot to be in with your partner, and something that has really been playing on your mind. I want to start off by reassuring you that your decision about not having children is one that is becoming more and more common. It’s a really […]
Ask Amber: My Best Friend and I Share the Same Boyfriend
Hey there, Thank you so much for reaching out. I want to start by expressing how much empathy I have for your situation. It sounds like such a tough spot to be in, and I can’t begin to imagine how much pain you must be feeling. Two of the people who I imagine you consider […]
Ask Amber: I Don’t Want My Housemate’s Messy Boyfriend to Move in
Hey there, Thanks for reaching out with your dilemma. The first thing I’ll say is living together with anyone as an adult can be tough. The relationship is complicated when someone is sharing a space with you 24/7. It becomes even more complicated when that person is your friend, especially when you need to deal […]
Ask Amber: He Told Me He Loved Me but Then Ghosted Me
Hey there friend, Firstly, I completely understand why you would feel upset by this situation. It sounds like something you were beginning to feel really invested in. That feeling when you first meet someone and you connect can be electric, and all-consuming. I also completely understand why you would feel like the feeling was reciprocated. […]
My Friends Gossip to Me About Each Other
Hey there, The first thing I want to say is that I can empathise with you so deeply on this! Friendship gossip and drama are such a common experience, and for a lot of us, it’s something that is so uncomfortable. While gossip is a part of human nature and has had evolutionary benefits in […]
My Best Friend Eloped Without Telling Me
I was set to be a bridesmaid but my best friend eloped without telling me. What’s worse is I found out they were married on Instagram. Am I wrong for being upset?
My Dysfunctional Family Has Made Me Hate Christmas
I’m reaching out because Christmas is around the corner and I am therefore once again grappling with a situation that becomes increasingly challenging with each passing holiday season. Christmas, a time that’s supposed to be filled with joy and warmth, has become my personal nightmare.
Should I break up with my friend?
I’m facing the challenging decision of ending a long-term friendship because, quite frankly, my friend has become a terrible friend to me. I’m grappling with how to approach this situation and I am really in need of some advice.